"4 years together.

Sudden break up.

She's been avoidant.

I would like to rebuild it with her. Possible?"

Someone asked me on my recent YouTube video.

My answer?

No, it's not possible to rebuild it.

And I don't advise anyone to do that.

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Why?

Look, I've been there myself.

2022, after 10 years of marriage and 15 years in relationship my wife comes and says:

"I think we should take a break."

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I'll save you the sad story of terrible break up and the heartbreak that followed.

(The truth - You've heard it and seen it many times before.)

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I'll save you the explanation how it was all her fault and how I blamed her for everything.

(The truth - The responsibility is ALWAYS shared.)

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I'll save you the injustice and regret I felt of investing SO MUCH time into someone who dumps you out of nowhere.

(The truth - The relationship was over LONG before.)

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Because none of it will help you.

How do I know? None of it helped me.

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You don't want to rebuild what didn't work in the first place.

Because it wouldn't be a great idea to begin with, but:

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You can RESTART the relationship.

With new standards for both partners.

With new agreements between them.

With new dreams and visions for both.

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I didn't save my marriage.

It was doomed to fail.

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But we restarted it together.

We made a decision.

We committed.

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For each of us.

For our relationship.

For our current and future children.

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And even though it has been non-linear and bumpy, we are now better than ever before.

And we focus more on our current trajectory than on our current results.

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Because we know this truth:

Your current results are a consequence of your past decisions.

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I don't care what you experienced in your past.

I don't care how easy or difficult you had it.

I don't care whether you've been insecure your entire life or became insecure only recently. (after a "horrible" breakup or something similar)

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All I care about is your DECISION.

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If you decide you want to be secure from now on...

If you decide you want to be the leader of your love life...

If you decide you want to experience the fresh start for yourself...

reply "decision" to this email and I'll help you shift into a person who's got it all.

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No healing.

No counseling or therapy.

No long term commitment.

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I'm talking:

You. Secure. By the end of this quarter.

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This is a call to action to you.

Are you ready to shift?

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Blessings

Matus